Unless you do it yourself, divorce mediation is the least expensive of your divorce options and takes the least time. But you both must be comfortable with using a single divorce attorney and with openly discussing your divorce issues face-to-face and you both must want to separate respectfully and thoughtfully in order for divorce mediation to be effective.  More about Divorce Mediation…


If one or both of you are experiencing difficult emotions or you both are simply more comfortable with your own separate, individual attorney to counsel with and advocate for you, then the Collaborative divorce process is a safer container for your legal, financial and emotional separation. Collaborative divorce costs more than divorce mediation but less than divorce litigation. More about Collaborative Divorce…


Divorce litigation involves two adversarial divorce attorneys and tends to be the most emotionally painful and expensive of your divorce options. But it may be your most appropriate option if one spouse has been abusive to the other spouse or to the children, if one spouse has a serious mental disorder, if one spouse believes the other has been materially dishonest financially or if one spouse is unwilling to compromise or participate in the divorce process. More about Divorce Litigation…


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There is a fourth divorce option. It is possible to file your own divorce and complete the divorce process in greater Kansas City without retaining an attorney, a divorce financial analyst or a parenting plan professional.

Before you make a decision to divorce yourselves, though, consider whether you and your spouse are good candidates. You may, in fact, be good candidates for a Do It Yourself divorce if:

  • You both agree on ALL major issues (division of property, custody, and support).
  • Your family’s assets and debts are very simple.
  • You both believe you have complete information about all of your assets and debts.
  • You both are comfortable with the terms of your co-parenting arrangements for your children with respect to custody, support and shared parenting time.
  • You both believe your agreement is fair and reasonable.
  • You both have the time to research California family law, gather the required documentation, and follow through with court filings and appearances.
  • You both have the temperament to handle the emotional roller coaster that will inevitably come into play even if you both agree completely with respect to the process.

Self-Help (Pro Se) Divorce Resources in greater Kansas City: Depending on your state and county of residence, some self-help centers are staffed by attorneys and other qualified personnel under their direction to provide information and education about the divorce process and to work with the court to provide effective management of divorce cases with no direct attorney involvement.


JOHNSON COUNTY: Johnson County Kansas Family Law Court

The pro se forms available through Johnson County’s Self Help Center are basic. These forms do NOT deal with every divorce situation. A divorce can be complicated, and using legal forms without an attorney’s help may not be advisable. Court staff CANNOT give you legal advice or tell you exactly how to fill out your pleadings. Court staff can only provide information about the divorce procedures and help you file the correct forms. If you have legal questions or a complicated case, you should talk to an attorney. The courts require everyone to follow court rules. If you cannot follow the court rules you will not be able to finalize your divorce case. Even if you do not have an attorney, you are still expected to know and follow the same court rules and laws as an attorney. You should know that the way you and the Court divide your property in a divorce decree are binding rulings and may not be modified later. In addition, agreements or rulings regarding division of debts are not binding on, and do not affect the rights of your creditors or other third parties. If one spouse is going to receive part of the other spouse’s retirement benefits, additional documents may be needed to complete the transfer. You will need to seek the advice of an attorney to complete this process because it is outside the scope of pro se divorce forms.

Divorce with Minor Children
For divorce without Minor Children

See also:

Proud To Parent – A free, confidential, and eye-opening website for parents never married to each other.

Up To Parents – A free, confidential, and interactive website for divorcing and divorced parents.

Family Law Guidelines (PDF) – Johnson County Bar publication containing sections on Parenting Arrangements and Services for Divorcing and Other Families.

Parenting Planning – Kansas Supreme Court’s information on how to prepare a parenting plan with example forms.

The new Johnson County District Court Help Center is designed primarily to assist those who cannot afford an attorney in family law cases. The Help Center is located on the first floor of the Johnson County Courthouse, (100 N. Kansas Avenue, Olathe.)



Divorce Facilitators in the greater Kansas City area typically can:

  • Give you information in many languages and explain your legal divorce options.
  • Give you tools to represent yourself in divorce Court.
  • Show you how to fill out the legal forms, follow divorce court procedures, find resources or a lawyer.

Divorce Facilitators Cannot:

  • Help with discovery.
  • Act as your lawyer (there is no attorney-client relationship).
  • Go with you to Court, or speak to a Judge for you.